double digits.

My countdown ticker has gone down to double digits. 99 more days to go before Holly pops(by the way I got some disapprovals from my dad for this name, but most prob we will stick to it).

Lots of things to prepare for her arrival!

So far my tummy is still quite small but showing already and somebody actually gave up seat for me on MRT. I was quite glad.

One more week to 3rd trimester. Scary but can’t wait. I believe our girl will be bringing us lots of joy. I just hope that she will be born healthy. I hope my doings in the 9 months had not affected her including flying, travelling, painting of flat, lots of curries and also lots of cold drinks.

I’m hearing gasps from mothers.

oohs and aahs…

I stumbled upon this website and immediately I went ‘oh my god, so cute…’ all the way. I knew I had to show Nellie.

That night, I led him to this website and his eyes lit up and couldn’t stop smiling while looking at those photographs. I guess I’ll have to share with all of you of here.

kelly ryden

the place where i belonged.

For the past week when Nellie wasn’t working, both of us had been scouring IKEA, Homefix and even Giant to make our room, the living room and the bathroom a much better place. We have plans of moving out of here but not now , when everything is in a rush. We’ll wait till Holly is old enough to crawl or walk then we’ll move into a 4-room flat(right now we are staying in a small but cozy 3 room flat.)

We’ve decided that our new flat to be either at Holland area(the place to be) or Serangoon area(where my parents are). It will be really exciting to move but right now I am really happy with the flat. A new layer of paint, a few pieces of new furnitures here and then and viola! A nice little home, with grandma, mummy, daddy, little baby and a domestic helper.

Our room has no air con, the fan is blowing right on our legs. Yesterday, I laid down beside Nellie. With him snoring lightly beside me, an arm underneath my neck, the candle I had lit earlier flickering in the dark and the wind blowing gently on our legs. A space next to our bed ready for a baby cot. Somehow, I knew I had found where I’ve always wanted to be.

Things had not been easy, but we know we’ll have fun and make it through it all.

i want these…

Wedding is over. However, I still love the magic of it, the preparation, the transformation, the wonders of it. If you’re planning for a wedding, please ask me for help. I will find all things pretty for you.

These are from Oh my deer

So pretty that it hurts right. Sigh… I love them so much.

nobody says it will be easy.

That is married life. And a really rushed one.

Once you’re married, responsible and financially stable will come into the picture automatically. And then everyone will be watching how you manage you life, your house and your parents and your in-laws. Soon, will be your baby.

We had taken over the bills at home and I had been busy packing up the room to make room for a play pen. I’m still waiting to either engage painting service or for Nellie to paint it himself. With Nellie working, I could only do so much. I can’t carry, I can’t bend and stand up for long, if not everything would have been done by now.

I would like to do a small revamp for the living room, it is now very plain and simple. However, with my mother-in-law in the living room most of the time, I am quite scared that she will disapprove to things we are going to do.

Next, financially, seriously, we are not stable at all. With me not working and him freelancing, and this is an unplanned marriage & pregnancy, very obvious we do not have much savings. But somehow, people has this notion that those who are married has money that is stashed somewhere deep in the cupboard.

Next, the relationship between Nellie and I. As I am not working, so very obvious that when he’s not, I’ll be with him. And that, I am quite worried that he has no space for himself. He always said that it’s okay to spend time together but I don’t want to be sticking with him all the time.  I hope married life won’t change any of us. For me, I definitely have to adjust my lifestyle as I am pregnant also. However, for him, I hope he could just go and do his stuff like how he used to. For me, I am happy to be cleaning up the room and watch TV afterwards.

Oh well, it is a matter of time before we can get into a routine, to fatten up the bank account and of course to show people that we are responsible people, for now, we just have to do what we can to make the home a better place to live in and also, to prepare to welcome the little one, whom we are going to call Holly Pereira.

the happiest day of my life!

Not today of course but 29 December 2009.

A few days after the wedding I was all resentful about my wedding cos I was too tired and missed a lot of photo opportunities with a lot of people and that my bridesmaid didn’t really help out at the wedding and that so many cookies were not given out and also many polaroid films were left. Lots of regrets and lots of thoughts.

Then I got my wedding highlights from my photographer and all the good memories came flooding back.

http://bittersweetbyjoseph.com/nelsonadeline/

That night, I was really happy. From the bottom of my heart, happy. I remembered as I was floating from table to table, somebody and I don’t remember who asked me, “how do you feel now?”

I replied, “I felt so natural, like this is what I’m suppose to be doing.”

Initially, I was worried I’d feel surreal or awkward or weird, but no, I went through the night with laughter, joy and tears as if I owned the night. It was our night.

Somehow now I don’t feel as much resentment, it’s one day and the picture speaks louder than words. It was a beautiful wedding with people who loves us. That’s enough. Period. I enjoyed my day and now I can’t wait for the rest of my life.

Wedding is once in a lifetime, don’t expect it to be perfect, being together with your husband and being blessed by everyone you love is all that matters.

That was really the happiest day of my life.

our honeymoooooooon…

This is my first time going on honeymoon, first time going to India, first trip of 2010 and first time taking night flight.  I didn’t know what to expect, was so excited about it and couldn’t sleep on flight, Nellie said I was like a little kid.

India was really a nice place, with nice people who only had eyes for money, oh well… fresh air(definitely not in the city area) and good food. Spicy food everywhere and it was so good.

We went to Varkala and stayed at Blue Water Resort for 3 nights, Blue Water was reliable and I had only booked it 2 days before and the airport transfer was on time and we had a nice little cottage to call it a day. From our cottage to the sea was only about 200m away, at night we could hear the waves crashing. Very nice.

We went to Allepey after that to stay on the boat house, meals were included and they were delicious. Boat house was really tranquil and relaxing as the boat glides through the placid backwater but that was also the first time I showered from bucket as they had no hot shower. To some extend I was still a city girl, Nellie asked the boatmen to boil water and he mixed it with the cold water. It was a good shower.

Karrikathi Beach house was the day after, it was a beautiful beach house perched on the cliff with unblocked seaview. We loved it so much that we extended to 2 night stay. We had initially booked for one night only as it was expensive! 150 Euro. The first night was good, with good food and good service. On the second night, there was thrunderstorm and our power was cut, Nellie was kinda angry as we had paid that kind of money and had to sleep through the night without fan and lights. Anyway, nothing was going to spoil our mood.

The last night, we checked into city hotel, The Residency Tower. Nellie immediately dived into the duvet and turned on Star Movies, all the resorts we stayed in had no TV. We had a good buffet lunch at the hotel and headed to Valiyatura to visit Nellie’s bro-in-law who was so hospitable that he insisted us to check out of our hotel and stayed at their house. But we had already paid in full upon checking in. Too bad. Next time…

The next day we went back to Nellie’s bro-in-law’s house again to hang out and eat. Yummy home-cooked food and nice people. We ended our trip with a walk around the neighbourhood which consists of a long stretch of beach. So nice… we could see the local way of living. We went to the church also where Nellie’s grandma’s tombstone was but we couldn’t find hers. Well, at least we were there.

The trip was so relaxing, no shopping, no hectic traffic, most of time just beaches and waters and good food.

Nellie said, he will remember this trip for life. Me too!

I love it. Very much.

Tourists gather around to look at the catch of day.

Homemade toasts. I’m a sucker for anything homemade.

I love this series of photographs. Last day had the best sunset. BEAUTIFUL… I hope you love the photos as well.

it has to be official.

Nellie didn’t say much but I think he really wants me to take up his surname. I have to change it at ICA, and then as well as other official stuff like bank accounts, passport even my crew pass.

Sounds like a chore to me. I might get down to doing it one day, but I’m just so plain lazy though I really have nothing much to do nowadays.

How should the name be?

Adeline Koh-Pereira Theng Ling

Koh-Pereira Theng Ling, Adeline

Koh Theng Ling, Adeline Pereira

Theng Ling, Adeline Koh-Pereira

So confusing… we are not as straight forward as those ang mohs, I still have my dialect name to put in.

My full name will actually become

Theng Ling, Adeline Koh-Pereira(Xu Deng Ling) 许登岭

That’s quite a mouthful.

Alright, I shall get down to change it, say, next week? Okay… let’s do it next week.

I hope.

my white and blue wedding.

My wedding and honeymoon are over… kind of sad but yet we are quite relieved, back to life again and no more fretting over stuff, at least not for the next 3 months.

Some pictures taken by my sisters or Adrian on that day. More of behind-the-scenes and solemnization.

I love my solemnization ceremony, the wedding dinner was a bit hectic and tiring but overall I really love my wedding. It was a wedding we wanted and enjoyed.

This was hung when we were on our way to ROM to collect our cert the day before.

The location that had caused us so much problem and of course, moolah.

But with a view like this, it’s all worth it.

My love.

Our breakfast from Changi Village on our wedding day which was also the last proper meal we had for the day.

I was really thrilled when Rach L managed to get the birdcage veil for me. It was what I always wanted for my wedding but didn’t get a chance to look for it. She gave it to me as a gift.

My mom.

My second sister pre-makeup. I have to do my makeup early cos my MUA has another wedding to attend and I die die also want him cos I love his make up. He did it for my pre-wed also. You know, it’s normal make-up with no glittering stuff or pink eye shadows.

My 2 older sisters.

They youngest rascal of our family.

How can we not have this for weddings?

Set-up almost done.

Love the chair tie-backs but centerpiece a tad too small…

My ceremony area. Love it here.

I’m so glad I chose benches instead of normal chairs. It just gave off a different feel. Love the decor.

My solemnization table. And I really like it.

I’ll be walking down this aisle very shortly afterwards…

My reception table and my love.

Still not very ready… but it looks something like this.

Friends and family helping with whatever they can.

Da jie after make up.

Dressing up.

Olc and Nicole.

Fruit tarts from Maria Le Caterer and I didn’t get to eat it. Looks very yummy!

Finally! I said ‘I do’ and we kissed!!

There are so many many more photos to upload and I’m so lazy. I love my wedding so much that I don’t mind doing it all over again. Erm… but can I just fast forward to that day and leave the planning and money to someone else?

I even had a dream that my next wedding theme is Winter Wonderland… whoa.. scary!

I hope I’ll be getting my photos from my photographer soon and I’ll probably just create an album in flickr where everybody can view.

The wedding had been what we wanted, tears and joy and lots of laughters, booze kept flowing but luckily not much rowdiness. I hope everyone had enjoyed it as much as we did.

We were happy with the wedding and great that it was over. I must admit it was a high-strung 3 months for me but I think it’s all worth it.

29 December 2009 was the happiest day of my life.

I married the love of my life!

Coming up next… my honeymoon photos!!

deadbeat.

I felt like I had been hit by a car. That tired.

Right after Nellie was back, the past few days had been hectic, with shopping, dresses, house parties, food, food and then diarrhea and puke. My body aches, my eyes could hardly open.

Wanted to go Ikea after sending Nellie for his bachelor party just now, I ended up napping at 8pm and waking up at 11pm. I don’t feel like going out, who cares if today is Saturday, it is what-a-day to me.

I didn’t do much today actually, went for my mani and pedi and shop for Nellie’s berms and then KFC and then after reaching home, supposedly for him to change and then I’ll send him off, I was knocked out cold. Haven’t felt so tired in a long long time.

I’m going to sleep soon again, Nellie will probably be back really late and really really drunk and I hope he won’t do anything stupid.

For me, I was just tying some loose ends for the wedding, 3 more days to go, unbelievable. After that I need a goooood break.

And, and also. Merry Chrismas! And an advance Happy New Year, just in case I’ve got another case of hit-by-a-car syndrome after the wedding and too tired to do anything.

It’s my duty to remind you to make 3 resolutions for 2010. For me,  I haven’t thought of it. Give me some time and some rest first.

Goodnight!